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46 Senators Must Live Knowing 80 Young People Killed Themselves With Guns This Week

Gun control is a family issue and a LGBT issue. More access to guns equals more suicides equals more dead LGBT kids. It’s that simple. Last week 42 Republicans and 4 Democrats defeated the most meaningful comprehensive bill on gun control in 20 years, despite 85% of the public supporting serious reform. Based on 2010 CDC stats, about 370 people have killed themselves with guns since that vote. About 80 of those are between ages 15-24. In one week. 80 Dead Young People.

The excellent Harvard School of Public Health Means Matter Project has found that means (ex: gun, hanging, pills, carbon monoxide, bridge jumps, etc.) along with seriousness of intent are the most important factors in whether a suicide is completed or not. About one in three gay youth attempt suicide and the rate is thought to be quite a bit higher (as high as 84%) for transgender or gender non-conforming (GNC) young people.

Adolescents are impulsive by nature and consequently many of their suicide attempts are not pre-meditated but in fact unplanned and related to same day crises. If a young person has access to a gun in the home, he or she is twice as likely to complete the suicide (source: Speakforthem.org). An NVISS study on the Characteristics of Victims of Suicide showed that of completed firearm suicides of youth under 17, 82% used a firearm belonging to a family member, usually a parent.

In the past fifteen years of clinical practice, every single lesbian, gay, bisexual and particularly transgender person with whom I’ve worked (with maybe no more than one or two exceptions) has reported feeling suicidal at some point during their adolescence. Some made attempts. Some did not. There are complicated, multi-variable reasons why some LGBT teens with horrific circumstances manage to survive and even thrive while others take their own lives. However, access to guns ensures that more LGBT young people will die. Many of those suicides will be impulsive and maybe the young person would have been stopped if he or she selected a less lethal method.

When I worked in residential treatment, I got a call that a fourteen year old lesbian client was trying to hang herself in her dorm. I ran over there in time to see her sitting on the bathtub moments after a staff member had removed the noose from around her neck. If she’d had access to a gun she’d be dead. No doubt in my mind. No time to get to her. No time to intervene. Instead, in the months that followed, she got the help she needed around her depression and support around affirming her sexual orientation.

We cannot continue to look to a corrupt Congress to protect our young people. It is our job as community members, clinicians, parents, teachers and simply compassionate human beings to circumvent an ineffective legislative process and make our own plan.

Here are a few suggestions on things we can do right now:

1. If you have kids, get guns out of your house. If you refuse to relinquish your guns, follow the guidelines set-forth by the Means Matter Project to decrease the likelihood children will have access (It has been shown that hiding guns typically doesn’t work).

2. Put pressure on friends and neighbors to get rid of guns. Do you ever ask the parent of your child’s friend if they have guns in the house before allowing your child to go there? This should become part of our parlance in the same breath as “Do you leave the kids unsupervised? Do you allow your kids to drink? What time do you imagine they’ll go to bed?” Perhaps gun ownership will go the way of the cigarette. It was once cool and now it’s looked down upon.

3. Work with local law enforcement and local businesses to sponsor “Turn in Your Gun” days. Some towns have offered cash for guns or businesses can also offer free or discounted meals or merchandise.

4. Lobby your school board to ensure that teacher’s have a basic understanding of what to look for in depressed students. Teachers have more contact with our young people than almost anyone and they can certainly help identify young people who may be at risk.

5. Work with schools to continue to create climates for LGBT students (and students that are outsiders) that are affirming and safe in order to decrease the sense of isolation and hopelessness that accompanies suicidality.

6. Be that adult that a young person can talk to. Studies show that having one trusted adult is a protective factor for at-risk kids.

7. It goes without saying to vote each and every one of these Senators out of office.

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NJ Brownies Support Transgender Girl Scout in Wake of Cookie Boycott

Watch their you-tube video:
When my seven-year-old daughter Emma told me last September that she wanted to be a Brownie (the younger troop in Girl Scouts), I was apprehensive at best. As a kid, being a girl scout was the last thing I had ever wanted mostly because I couldn’t fathom wearing the dress, and as an adult, I want to raise a kid who is progressive and feminist and not stuck in the 1950s (which was the assumption I made about the Girl Scouts). But Emma wanted to do it, and so after making sure they don’t have the same homophobic policies as the Boy Scouts (which they don’t) I gritted my teeth and said, “yes, honey, of course you can join.”

It helped me that around the same time conservatives were  flyering the internet, warning parents that the Girl Scouts are pro-lesbian, pro-feminist and pro-choice. I thought “well, I can only hope.” That said, I couldn’t have foreseen that joining the Brownies would be such a rich opportunity for Emma and a couple of her friends from the troop to show support for a transgender girl named Bobby Montoya who is a Girl Scout in Colorado.  This was a story that Emma could relate to – a little girl who wanted to be a Girl Scout – and therefore was the perfect example to teach her about being an ally and accepting people for who they are and who they say they are.

By now, many of you are probably aware of the controversy that has been sparked by the decision of the Colorado Girl Scouts to include a seven year-old transgender girl named Bobby Montoya in one of their local troops.  After initially denying her enrollment, the Girl Scouts of Colorado flipped their decision, making an official statement that  ”if a child identifies as a girl and the child’s family presents her as a girl, Girl Scouts of Colorado welcomes her as a Girl Scout.”

Consequently, there has been cookie backlash! A 14-year-old called Taylor published a video on you-tube (which has since been made private after the teen was threatened) called for a boycott of girl scout cookies to protest the decision to allow Bobby into the Girl Scouts. In Louisiana, several parents have pulled their girls from Girl Scouts because of the Colorado decision (which, by the way, is a state policy that doesn’t have anything to do with Louisiana Girl Scouts) and started their own, I can only assume transphobic, HonestGirlScouts.com.

When I told Emma what was happening, we talked about making a video to support Bobby and she wanted to invite her troop members to participate with her.  Many parents elected not to have their daughters participate – even if they supported inclusion of transgender girls for reasons I plan to address in another post.

Here is the video that Emma and her fellow Brownies Courtney and Emmy made in their support for Bobby. And just so you know, these are the kids’ words. They wrote it themselves, and they read aloud the Girl Scout Law to remind people what the Girl Scouts are really about.  I’m obviously more than just a little proud, and actually I’ve discovered that Brownies are pretty cool as well.

Link to you-tube video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hS_F0smsIB0&context=C38c2528ADOEgsToPDskJeLV0wwhCc5tZrPR2egnuV

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